Night out

Tonight we are having a little get together with my friend Maria and her DH. We will be going to Coobah for some cocktails (anything except mojito's or chardonnay) and dinner. I first "met" Maria on the web in the "pity party/ dark black hole" forum that I used to belong to, but we soon realized we live in the same town and then decided to meet each other in real life. You can basically say we met on a blind date (just after Hayleigh was born) so you can say she is my "online mistress" turned real life friend. We share somewhat of the same history regrading pregnancy loss and she is one of very few people that understand my rantings regarding infertility. Most people are horrified or dumbstruck when you speak to them about giving birth to your own dead baby, and some claim to understand "exactly" what we went through but fortunately Maria is someone who really understands exactly because she has been there. Twice. I look forward to meeting up with them and having a great time tonight. We just decided this morning that we feel like an outing, and I am glad because as you all already know it's my birthday tomorrow and I love going out/being spoiled for my birthday. It will be my last year in my twenties, so I should do all the partying now, because next year I will have to act all grown up and responsible. HeHe

So on to other news.....

I made a list the other day about what the so-called benefits are to not having children.

This is all I could come up with:

We get a full night's sleep each night

We can go out without worrying about a babysitter

We can sleep in over weekends

We can watch anything we like on TV

I can have alcohol because we aren't pregnant

We don't have to sterilise bottles or change nappies

We can go on holiday effortlessly

We can go away on a quick weekend getaway whenever we like

We don't have to buy toys and gifts for Christmas and Birthdays

We don't need to worry about discipline, teaching manners or developmental milestones

We save money on milk, baby food and nappies as well as daycare

We don't have to make trips to the paediatrician

We don't have to pay to vaccinate our child

I can get my body into shape without gaining anymore pregnancy weight

I can plan far ahead without worrying about becoming pregnant

I can work lots of overtime to further my career

I can do strenuous exercise

I don't have to worry about miscarrying

I don't have endless doctors appointments/bills to take care of

I don't have my child's safety and happiness at heart each day

You might ask what this list means, well the other day someone told me that maybe having children is not my destiny and that I should count my blessings. Well, if you look at the list above, I ask YOU dear idiot person, would you swop your children for this lovely list of fucking benefits/blessings? I did not think so.